How to dress for a wedding: Guests and bridesmaids

Prince Johanzen Bigornia·30 July 2024·1 my reading time

Choosing what to wear to a wedding can be both exciting and challenging. Whether you’re a guest or a bridesmaid, finding the perfect outfit requires striking a balance between style, comfort and suitability for the occasion. This blog provides detailed guidance on how to dress for a wedding, covering everything from understanding dress codes to choosing the right accessories.

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Navigate between formal, semi-formal and casual

Understanding the rules on wedding attire

Weddings have different dress codes, and it is important to understand them in order to choose the right outfit. Here is an overview of the most common dress codes and what they entail:

1. Black tieA wedding with a black tie dress code is the most formal type of event. For women, this typically means a floor-length dress, but a smart cocktail dress or an elegant trouser suit may also be appropriate. Men should wear a tuxedo with a black bow tie, cummerbund or waistcoat, and black patent leather shoes.

2. Formal or black tie – optionalAlthough it is slightly less formal than a black tie, formal attire still calls for a touch of sophistication. Women can choose a formal cocktail dress, a long dress or a smart outfit. Men can wear a tuxedo or a dark suit with a tie.

3. Semi-formal or cocktailThis dress code is more casual, but still smart. Women can wear cocktail dresses, a smart skirt and top, or even a smart jumpsuit. Men should opt for a suit and tie, but these may be in lighter colours and fabrics.

4. Casual or DaytimeCasual weddings are the most relaxed in terms of dress code. Women can wear a sundress, a skirt and a blouse, or even a pair of smart trousers and a top. Men can wear khaki trousers or suit trousers with a button-down shirt. A tie is optional.

Interpreting seasonal and themed dress codes

Seasonal and theme-based dress codes add yet another layer of complexity. Find out how to navigate them here:

1. Summer weddingChoose lighter fabrics such as cotton, linen and chiffon. Light colours and floral patterns are popular choices. For men, a light-coloured suit or suit trousers with a linen shirt work well.

2. Winter weddingChoose richer fabrics such as velvet, satin and woollen fabrics. Dark colours and jewel tones are appropriate. Men should wear a dark suit or a tailcoat, perhaps with a stylish overcoat.

3. Beach weddingsBeach weddings call for airy, lightweight fabrics. Women can wear sundresses or maxi dresses, whilst men can opt for linen trousers and a light shirt, perhaps even sandals.

4. Themed weddingsThemed weddings call for a little more creativity. Pay close attention to the invitation and any instructions from the couple. Whether it’s a 1920s Gatsby theme or a rustic, countryside atmosphere, let the theme guide your choice of outfit, whilst maintaining a level of formality appropriate for a wedding.

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A woman’s guide to wedding guest attire

Choosing the perfect outfit for the guests

Choosing the perfect outfit as a wedding guest is all about striking a balance between style and respect for the occasion. Here are some tips for women:

1. Observe the dress codeAlways adhere to the dress code specified on the invitation. This shows respect for the couple’s wishes and ensures that you fit in with the overall aesthetic of the event.

2. Consider the location and the weatherThe venue and the time of year play an important role in choosing what to wear. For outdoor weddings, you should choose practical yet stylish footwear and bring a shawl or wrap in case the weather turns chilly. For indoor events, you should consider the formality and atmosphere.

3. Choose your accessories wisely Accessoriescan really lift your outfit. Choose elegant jewellery, a stylish clutch bag and suitable footwear. Opt for more glamorous accessories for black-tie events. For casual weddings, keep it simple and understated.

4. Avoid whiteWhite is traditionally reserved for the bride, so it’s best to avoid wearing white or anything that might upstage her. If you love lighter colours, opt for pastels or soft shades instead.

A man’s guide to what wedding guests should wear

Men often have fewer options, but there are still plenty of ways to look stylish and appropriate:

1. SuitFor most weddings, a suit is the right choice. If you’re wearing a black tie, you should opt for a tuxedo. For formal and semi-formal events, a well-fittingsuitand a tie to match. For informal weddings, trousers and a button-up shirt are usually sufficient.

2. Pay attention to the fitA well-fittingsuitcan make a significant difference to your overall look. Make sure your suit is made to measure so that it fits your body shape perfectly.

3. Accessorise thoughtfullyAdd a touch of personality with accessories such as a stylish watch, cufflinks or a pocket square. Make sure your shoes are polished to a shine and match your formal outfit.

4. Seasonal considerationsChoose your fabrics to suit the season. Opt for lighter fabrics in summer and heavier ones in winter. Layering can also help you stay comfortable at different times of the day.

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Coordination with the bride and groom

What to wear as a bridesmaid

Being a bridesmaid means going along with the bride’s vision for her wedding, which often includes specific guidelines on what to wear:

1. Follow the bride’s instructionsThe bride usually has a clear idea of what she wants her bridesmaids to wear. This may include the colour, style and length of the dress. Be flexible and support her choices.

2. Communicate with the bride and groomEnsure consistency in the bride and groom’s outfits by coordinating with the other bridesmaids. This can help to avoid any mismatches and ensure a cohesive look.

3. Choose comfortable shoesYou’ll probably be on your feet for much of the day, so choose shoes that are both stylish and comfortable. Consider bringing an extra pair with you to the dance or the reception.

4. Hair and make-upThe bride may also have her own preferences when it comes to hair and make-up. Whether she wants a consistent look or gives you some creative freedom, you should aim to complement the overall theme and style of the wedding.

Balancing personal style with group cohesion

Although it’s important to stick to the bride’s vision, you can still incorporate elements of your own personal style:

1. Personalise with accessoriesAdd a touch of your own personality with accessories such as earrings, bracelets or a necklace, as long as they go with the bridesmaid’s dress and the overall theme.

2. Comfortable underwearChoose underwear that provides support and comfort all day long. Seamless options work well with most bridesmaids’ dresses and ensure a smooth silhouette.

3. Consider the practical aspectsChoose a bridesmaid dress that not only looks good, but also allows you to move around comfortably. If the dress code allows it, opt for styles with pockets or fabrics that are easy to handle.

4. Hair and make-up tipsDiscuss hair and make-up preferences with the bride. If there’s scope for personal style, choose a look that flatters your features whilst complementing the couple’s overall look.

Adding the finishing touches

The finishing touches and tips on etiquette

The right accessories and finishing touches can take your wedding outfit from good to fantastic:

1. Elegant jewelleryChoose jewellery that complements your outfit without overpowering it. For formal occasions, opt for sophisticated jewellery such as pearls or diamonds. For more relaxed weddings, simpler, understated jewellery works best.

2. The perfect handbagChoose a handbag or clutch that matches your outfit and is practical enough to hold essentials such as your mobile, make-up and keys. For formal occasions, a small clutch or an elegant purse is ideal.

3. Well-designed footwearComfortable yet stylish footwear is important. For outdoor weddings, you should consider wedges or flat shoes that won’t sink into the grass. For indoor or formal events, classic pumps or dress shoes are a good choice.

4. Grooming and personal careMake sure you look your best on your wedding day. This includes a new hairstyle, well-manicured nails and any other personal care that makes you feel confident and well-groomed.

Wedding etiquette for guests and bridesmaids

Observing proper etiquette shows respect for the couple and enhances the overall wedding experience:

1. Reply immediatelyPlease reply to the wedding invitation as soon as possible. This will help the couple with their planning and ensure that you have a place at the event.

2. Observe the dress codeAdhering to the dress code shows respect for the couple’s wishes and the formal nature of the occasion. If in doubt, it is better to be a little too smart than not smart enough.

3. Be on timePunctuality is essential at weddings. Aim to arrive at least 15–30 minutes before the ceremony begins so that you can find your seat and settle in.

4. Participate respectfullyPlease take part in the ceremony and reception activities in a respectful manner. Follow the instructions given by the couple and their families, particularly during traditional customs and formalities.